You start inviting him places and giving him expensive gifts, even though he feels uncomfortable receiving them because he knows they aren’t “free” .
You PULL him toward you with smothering behavior in order to ease your anxiety about losing him. Suddenly, an invitation to a fancy, home-cooked dinner at your place or a few “How’s everything going?” texts throughout the day, start to make him feel trapped and smothered.
You feel more aggressive inside than soft and sweet , more hysterical in your gut than calm and tender in your heart.
It was only after years of feeling like we had to work hard to earn a man’s love, by doing things for him that were pushing him FURTHER away, that we realized the difference between “giving to get” and what we call Love-Based Giving .
It becomes less about caring for him and more about getting what we want. We are smart, though, and mask our manipulations as “loving gestures.” Notice how our product is called “INSPIRE His Love For You” not “Make Him Love You”? You can’t force change on a man , you can only inspire him to want to change by doing things for his wellbeing and HOPING you’ve inspired his heart.
We know how to help you quickly heal your anger caused by his lackluster behavior or heal anger you’ve held onto from past relationships, in order to make you AUTHENTICALLY lighter and happier around him immediately.
We are meant to be the ones who cast the love spell in the relationship. Men provide us safety and security and we help them to understand themselves better so that they can enjoy the mystical side of life, which includes deep emotional intimacy and unexplainable sexual attraction and passion.
If you wished to be loved; love! -Seneca Look, we both were also masters of pushing men away by not listening to what they needed from us… Kristina couldn’t hear her husband’s cries for space and trust because she didn’t want space and already had his trust.
The more desperate, greedy, needy, scared, angry, forlorn you feel because of a man or because of love in general, the more you STOP caring about any man’s wellbeing and start getting crafty about snagging him.
You start worrying too much about what you wear with him or how clean your house is when he comes over, and you start resenting him for it by getting stressed out and bitchy, instead of relaxing and enjoying him like he wants you to.
Affection is responsible for nine-tenths of whatever solid and durable happiness there is in our lives.
You stop respecting his need for space and start calling more often than you did when he WAS calling more.
Sarah was so filled with her own insecurities and anxieties about dating that she would worry so much, while on a date, if a man was liking her and satisfying HER need for HIS approval, that she couldn’t give him any of her quality attention.
You can’t manipulate his feelings long-term , you can only deepen them through Love! A man can tell the difference between when you are doing things FOR HIM… and when you are doing things FOR YOU and disguising them as things for HIM.
I may not be 40 anymore but I know how to make a man notice me now. I feel like That Woman who walks into a room and changes the energy inside it. Thank you.” Dora, 63, Florida 3rd Mistake to Kill His Love For You: Smother Him With Your “Good Deeds” and “Sweet Intentions” When we feel closer to a man than he feels to us, we women begin to feel a strong need to make him love us more.
She was cooking men meals and taking charge of plans for dates BUT was doing it with a motivation of desperation over mutual enjoyment , that was making men actually feel LESS calm and more unhappy in her presence.